Style vs Fashion – but aren’t they the same thing you may be thinking?

Being fashionable is defined as ‘conforming to custom, fashion or established mode’, it’s following temporary trends, dressing for others. Whereas style is enduring, it comes from within, it’s personal. Like I mentioned in my post ‘How to Fake Being a French Girl‘ – French women dress to feel good, they dress for themselves and no one else. This is a rule we should all follow, it will help develop our own style, one that makes us feel our most confident and beautiful.

As Coco Chanel aptly put it ‘Fashion fades, only style remains the same.’

A few people commented after my post about the huge fashion comeback of the Birkenstock, they totally disagreed with me and in fact loved their Birks. And good on them! Just as important as not wearing something because the fashion world says you should, is wearing what you love regardless of other peoples opinions. If I didn’t truly believe this I certainly wouldn’t own four pairs of drop crotch / harem pants.

Although I haven’t always been so unconcerned about others fashion views, if I’m honest, I have spent much of my life choosing what I wear based on the image I think it will portray to others. In high school all decisions were label based, the bigger the better. I was so concerned about what the ‘cool kids’ would think of me! In my 20s I worked for many years in the fashion industry, from owning my own clothing boutique to managing sales and marketing for fashion designers. And you know what – I was still worrying about what the ‘cool kids’ thought! I was desperate to wear the latest designer threads, perfectly curating up to the minute trends head to toe. It’s only been in the last few years that I’ve stopped caring so much about what others think about the way I dress. My love for fashion certainly hasn’t wained, however the difference now is I am choosing what I have in my wardrobe by what makes me feel good.

Think about your favourite items in your wardrobe. Is there any themes you can see about the looks you love to wear the most? If you’re a little lost about what your style is, go onto pinterest, start searching women whose style you admire. Pin whatever you are drawn to. What you will soon find are trends, colours, styles that you gravitate towards. You now have a fantastic template to start building a wardrobe that truly reflects your style, because it will be filled with items that you love, that are all about you and no ones else’s idea of what you should wear. Style inspirations for me are women like Emmanuelle Alt, Tash Sefton (specifically her shoes!), Julie Sariñana, Alexa Chung and Anine Bing. (You can see more of my fashion inspiration on my pinterest fashion page.)
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Lifestyle is also going to shape your style. Currently I’m home with my kids, so my day to day wardrobe is all blue, black, grey and white skinny jeans, well cut shirts / tees and some kind of flat shoe. I choose quality over quantity every time and try to pay attention to the smaller details like accessories, hair and makeup (when my crazy toddler allows) to help my casual day to day look more polished. Obviously when I go back to working this will be reflected in my wardrobe – I’m so excited about that, getting the excuse to dress up a bit more and having a very valid justification to shop!

Hopefully this post will motivate you to think a little about your own style. Just remember there is no way you can go wrong if you are dressing to make yourself feel happy and confident, regardless of whether it’s ‘in fashion’ or not, to hell with the cool kids!


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Check shirts are kinda everywhere, and while I’m not into wearing head to toe seasonal trends, I’m still not going to miss out on something I love just because many others are wearing something similar (exactly the same theory I’ve applied to stripes, yes they are every where, no I don’t care, I love them, I feel chic and magically, instantly a little French).

I love finding something that will fit with everything in my existing wardrobe, so much easier to justify the purchase when you can create multiple outfits with just one new item.

These check shirts from LA label Rails are probably my favourite, there are countless celebs and supermodels who agree from Cara Delevingne to Olivia Palermo.

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Although there was a loud, persistent voice in my head telling me to snap up a couple online from Superette immediately…I stood strong, and stepped away from the keyboard…then laid in wait until one appeared on Trademe less than a couple of weeks later! Oh how I love that there are still ladies out there that buy on a whim, wear it once and then they’re onto the latest must have. Meanwhile I snap up their barely worn designer threads at a fraction of the original price.


Rails Hunter Shirt in Cadet Blue originally from Superette for $219, but worn once and only $100 on Trademe. Happy budgeting mama!

If you want a cheaper option, I also found some great prints on ASOS, the quality has been surprisingly high and then you don’t run the risk of a dozen other people wearing the same thing which is likely when shopping in local chain stores. I chose the ASOS River Island Check Shirt for under $60 with free delivery.

How I style mine….(please note: I really hate getting my photo taken, a little bit of an achilles heel for someone wanting to blog about fashion/shopping/style, so bear with me, one day I may even actually show my face!)

check3 Cheap Monday Jeans (trade me steal) | Rails Shirt (trade me steal) | Chaos & Harmony Boots (hid the receipt from my husband) | Deadly Ponies Bag (7 years old and still rocking it)

check4 ASOS Jeans (cheap as chips) | Bassike Tee (Superette, worth paying for a good basic) | Rails Shirt (trade me steal) | Loeffler Randall Sandals (saw them on Tash Sefton of TheyAllHateUs fashion blog, found on sale online were $280 down to $65, god that felt good)

check7 Top Images – ASOS shirt | Storm tee | Cheap Monday Jeans | Converse One Stars / Chaos & Harmony Boots, Bottom Image – Bassike Tee | Rails Shirt | ASOS Jeans | Converse One Stars,
all looks styled with my everyday jewellery – Lindi Kingi Bracelets | Kirsten Ash Fine Rings and Charm Necklace

(Images other than of me, are from my pinterest page where original sources can be found.)


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I admit it, I am a little scared of animal print.

I actually bought some really stunning animal print pants from epic local store Sisters & Co last year and have NEVER worn them. Can’t get up the guts. I’m not sure if I’m quite ‘cool’ enough, you know what I mean?! I do love animal print on others though, it’s turning up so much in many fashion blogs I follow.


So I’m going to take it slowly and just dip my toes in the trendy waters. Look how good Tash Sefton from They All Hate Us looks rocking her leopard flats, I am unashamedly copy catting (leopard cat that is…sorry couldn’t help myself).

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Check out these bad little babies I bought! I LOVE them. I found them at online at The Iconic and at just over $100AUS i can actually be honest with my husband about my latest purchase.

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Are you brave enough to take the plunge and wear animal print on a large scale like a dress or jacket, if so check out some great options at Moochi here. If you’re a little scarred like me and let your accessories do the talking Superette has you covered, or for budget friendly options has plenty.

(Images from my pinterest page where original sources can be found.)


For many in their twenties it’s a gloriously selfish time when they can justify spending three weeks rent on the latest must have, unfortunately as we grow older and lifestyle changes, it’s much harder to rationalize. Mortgages, children and husbands (especially those with an aversion towards late model cars and big screen TV’s) all chew up that dollar once dedicated to an enviable wardrobe.

Back in my twenties I was lucky enough to work in fashion, regularly enjoying fashion shows, industry events and photo shoots. My wardrobe was bursting with amazing pieces, dangerously easy to justify when you buy at wholesale!

Fast forward to today and my life now consists of looking after my two daughters, being a wifey, coffees with girlfriends, staying up late doing uni assignments and of course the usual fun that comes with being a mum aka endless washing, cooking, cleaning etc. Somewhere I seem to have lost my style, it may be somewhere between a mountain of Dora DVDs and 3am wake up calls for yet another cuddle. I still live vicariously through my girlfriends who are yet to have children or a large mortgage and seem to be wearing some new designer lust worthy purchase in every uploaded photo on instagram or facebook – but back to my reality – dressing for my new lifestyle on a relatively modest budget. I want a relaxed, cool look with an edge.

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Pinterest is a fantastic tool to discover your style and highlight what important items are missing from your current wardrobe. I must warn you however, you may find that while surfing pinterest multiple hours suddenly disappear from your day, it’s addictive! A couple of favourite bloggers I’ve repined a little excessively from are Julie Sarinana of Sincerely Jules and best friends Tash Sefton and Elle Ferguson of the renowned They All Hate Us. Both give a perfect example of casual luxe. An outfit that you can wear with converse for the day, then simply change into heels and red lippy and you’re ready for a night out. Or perhaps there’s a celeb whose style you admire, simply enter their name in the Pinterest search tool and you will have pages of images to inspire. Kate Bosworth, Lara Bingle and my absolute favourite Paris Vogue’s editor-in-chief Emmanuelle Alt are definitely worth stalking.

Considering my budget I’ve got to keep realistic (so hard to do!), there is so many different styles I adore, but to get the most out of your wardrobe you must put together a cohesive collection of clothing that you can mix and match multiple ways.

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1. Rails shirt
2. Bassike tee
3. Converse Chuck Taylor all star daintys
4. Paige Denim slim boyfriend jeans
5. Kirstin Ash ‘Fines’ rings
6. Lindi Kingi bracelets
7. Paige Denim skinny black jeans
8. Twenty Seven Names breton tee
9. Chaos and Harmony ‘Vow’ boots

Keeping to a pallet of denim, leather, white, grey and black, I can mix and match to create numerous looks and make the most of my new purchases. The key is stretching your dollar as far as possible by keeping your wardrobe to a small number of key pieces, investing in the best quality you can afford and keeping your eye out on sales and Trademe for a designer piece at a chain store price tag.